I had a conversation with my cousin last night and this is what inspired between us.
The conversation got us into a direction of income, and what it entails to date a man who makes six figures (anything over 100,000 pounds a year in the UK).
She was surprised to hear me say that, a lot of African women are used to dating low-income earners and they expect that, the way these men are treated by them should be the same way they will treat someone who earns six figures with a lot of options available to him.
I was blunt with her. I told her that, everyone you date should be respected and be talked to or dealt with well. However, if you meet someone who earns over 100,000 pounds a year in the UK, you cannot go and deal with this person the same way you have dealt with everyone else.
Similarly, if you meet someone earning over a million dollars or pounds a year, you ought to know what you are holding in your hands or the sort of mentality you are engaged with.
For instance, only 1% of earners in the UK earn £121,000 or over per year. Therefore as a woman, if you meet a man in this 1% bracket, (which the majority of women will never meet), you cannot go and throw dust instead of substance or be behaving anyhow with that person. The person belongs to 1% of an entire working population in the UK, he has real options, he knows his worth and he has financial power to just forget your behavior and find another woman.
Even earning £70,900 per year puts a person in the top 10% in the UK and therefore you must know who you are dealing with. A lot of women would not get to date a man in this group as he belongs to the 10% too.
I told her that, dating is like Orwell’s Animal Farm. All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.
If you want to have beautiful holidays around the world, enjoy great foods, receive regular gifts and treats, and sleep in some of the best hotels, and take photos or capture memories, you have two options as a woman when men largely have one option. You can work hard and use your money for all these as a woman or meet a man who will give you all these too while you have your work money to yourself.
As men, our option is just one. If we want something, we have to work for it ourselves because a woman savior hardly exists.
As a woman, do not use the same brush to paint all men and you will have an interesting dating life, I told her.
In fact, know what the top modern men seek. They want a woman who is smart, agreeable, and cooperative. Anything short of these and you may find yourself back to the large pool, washing the dishes and living ordinary lives.
–Chris-Vincent Agyapong